Browsing my Friendster bulletins, I saw this post by my mini-me Row-row which filled me both with self-pride and contemplation. Hmmm, turns out everything I need to know about the boy-meets-girl world I've learned through Samantha Jones and co. all in the comforts of my bedroom nestled with my cat, Rodman, a good book, and a cable connection. So it is on to the next rock fest for me rather than playing the field. Or getting played.
FEELS SO BITCHIN' TO BE RIGHT.
Lessons that must be Learned in Relationships
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. If you have any doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change your self for a relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you CAN'T "be friend". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
10.Have Faith in GOD regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.
11. DON'T SETTLE.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship-- take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
15.Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU.
17. There's only one reason why a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid a men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you differently?
19. You really have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness first.
21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. Like from the Sex and the City, if he doesn't call he just isn't that interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role".Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse,
there's emotional,
and mental abuse. If he causes any
of them.... flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors.
Change comes from within
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself.---- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.... even if he has more education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-God. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you.
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, then he probably is. Confront right away and if you feel he's lying
let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use the painful hard-won wisdom --
"get it right" the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your
life.
44. Love is a verb...
45. Learn to give up your life long task of trying to make someone unavailable-available, someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
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